Oh, it's been a long time since I've done one of these demystification posts! So ... the other day, I watched this movie. It's a few years old, but perhaps you've seen it: Knocked Up?
The premise of this movie is based in large part on an idea that's very popular in our culture: opposites attract.
Opposite = exciting! Thrilling! Oh, the passion!
Similar = boring, sad pandas. *snore*
So is this true?
Well, research shows that a lot of people believe this idea.
However, lots (as in, dozens) of studies have solidly demonstrated that the opposite is true. Who do Type A personalities prefer to date? Other Type As. Same pattern for Type Bs. And it's not just personality types--it's also values, attitudes and beliefs. This type of similarity is related to attraction as well as marriage happiness and stability. Oh, and friendships, too.
Interestingly, though, many people claim to want a relationship with someone who has opposing personality characteristics. But one study showed that although people personally endorse the belief that they are attracted to those with opposing traits, when asked to rate specifically the traits they find desirable ... they ended up with profiles strikingly similar to their own personalities.
So--have you been a believer in this opposites attract idea? Where have you seen it in fiction, either books or movies? Can you think of any YA books that play with this concept?
While you ponder that, let me announce that on Wednesday, the fabulous (and recently agented! Yay!) Lydia Kang will be guest posting here, discussing Mind-Body connection for writers and their characters!